What belongs to me, belongs to me.



I was carrying this childhood memory with me.  It is about my cousin taking away my toy.  I was crying and running behind to get it.  My cousin pulled apart the toy and threw away the pieces.  My aunt was walking beside but didn't utter a word to stop her son.

This memory was haunting and I decided to process this with Prasad's therapy.  While role playing this scenario, for the first time, I realized that cousin too had emotional quotient related to this incident.  With this awareness, things took a new dimension.

Then came the aunt's role.  Instead of just thinking how she acted, the process encouraged to think how she should have acted.  With that change, the direction of the scenario changed. Cousin gave the toy to me.  Now I was happy to get back what I wanted.  The cousin was unhappy.  I asked if he want another toy.  He said he has many toys with him.  With that the drama came to an end.  The final interaction was between me and the toy.  The toy asked how happy I was to have the toy back, if I will hold it dear.

The toy signifies the belongings we have.  The people we are bound to, the objects we possess, the activities we do are all dear to us.  Losing something gets into great loss and hurts deeply.  I have been loosing many things in the same manner and getting hurt.  There is a pattern repeating itself and my behavior seems to be replaying the same story again and again.

This process has many learning aspects. 

1) Instead of crying after a loss, it is better to guard objects.

2) Things happened in childhood are etched in us.  Many of our past events replay in our mind.

3) There is a pattern and repetition happening in the way we react and conduct to events. 

4) we have the power to rewrite now the way we think and behave.

5) Good news.  The past negative energy and emotional bundles can be converted to positive thinking.  The negativity can be channelized into positive energy and used for a better future.

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